Currently, many children hear words like war, missiles, attacks… As parents, should we talk to them about it or instead protect them from this anxiety-inducing news?
Marine Darnat, a psychologist specializing in supporting children and parents, gives advice on her Instagram account on how to address this sensitive issue with children as calmly as possible, taking into account their age and sensitivity.
According to the expert, the first step is to listen to your child and ask them: “What have you heard and where?” and “Does it worry you?”.
“The goal is not to explain everything. The goal is to start from what they have heard and understood,” explains Marine Darnat.
The psychologist suggests responding to the child’s questions in a simple, clear, and factual manner. The idea is not to anticipate their questions but to move forward with them based on where they are, and then reassure them.
Children especially need to know:
- that adults are taking care of the situation
- that this is not something happening in their country
What to say based on the child’s age?
- Under 5 years: reassure and answer their questions.
- 6-8 years: also correct the information they’ve heard at school or elsewhere.
- From 9 years old: listen to their point of view, develop critical thinking.
The specialist recommends paying particular attention to children’s exposure to news in the media (including on the radio in the car).
“Because what often worries children the most is not so much reality as what they have imagined from bits of images or conversations,” she emphasizes.
Children need to feel:
- that adults are watching over them
- that their daily life remains stable
- that their emotions are heard
Don’t hesitate to reassure your child by telling them these words: “You are safe. And if you have any questions, you can always come talk to me.”
